Man dating a lesbian
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I didn't have to worry about what men thought of me. The next year, we took our love for travel to a new level: We left our jobs to live without a home, staying with friends and housesitting all over the world. And this fall, we're moving to China, where I'll be teaching for a year.
My wife and I had marched with thousands of others for marriage equality. My novels featured queer characters, and my poems honored the love between women. At the university I'd become known as a lesbian professor who incorporated queer content into her courses and who had a loving, long-term marriage. While some were fun in bed, I met a surprising number of men who had various versions of sexual dysfunction. Despite all of this, perhaps our beautiful wedding-on-a-boat had just been a way to try to resuscitate a dying relationship. And some whose idea of a good time was – yes – watching TV and drinking beer. Most were thrilled for me, although a few were not. It didn't work and it ended for all sorts of reasons. I couldn't eat or sleep, haunted by the thoughts going through my mind. It took me a few months of darkness and hours of therapy to see how being torn to the ground – as painful as it was – presented me with an opportunity to rebuild.women in the past. Still, it was exciting to be doing something totally different. I felt growing in me a kind of tenderness toward the world, an openness to trying new things. I read books and watched movies I would have pooh-poohed in the past. But for a while, sex with men had pervaded my psyche. Now that I was single, I could do whatever I damn well pleased. I even started wearing makeup again and pretty clothes that made me feel like a girl playing dress-up. Before I met and married my husband, I was with my ex for 15 years, but only married for 6 months.
That's because I was with a woman when California legalized same-sex marriage.
We had been the iconic lesbian couple: an artist and a writer – teachers and activists. I had been deeply invested in my identity as a lesbian and in my identity as half of a loving, perfect partnership.
After having been – as my mother put it – "boy crazy" in my teens and twenties, falling in love with a woman in my early thirties had been a revelation. Although this time, it wasn't for a divorce honeymoon but to marry this man – surrounded by our friends.
And this time, I was dressing for not for the men or women in my life.
I traveled alone to Hawaii, taking myself on a divorce honeymoon, drinking a small bottle of champagne on the plane and walking alone for five hours across a volcano.
Pretending to be someone you're not with the aid of the anonymous mask of the internet is nothing new.